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How would you like to never feel pain again?


Sounds good right?  Happy all the time!  But it’s not realistic and it’s actually not good for us, it can even be bad for us.


There’s a rare genetic disorder called congenital analgesia where people are unable to feel pain and they do not do well.  In this article about two brothers that were born with the disorder one of them had committed suicide and the other one was going to have a leg amputated soon.

Pain, when used properly can be a tool for learning, growth, and transformation.  It’s the running away from pain and discomfort that keeps us in addictions and compulsive behaviors.

It’s instinctual to run away from pain.  It’s wired in our brains to move away from pain and danger and to move toward pleasure.  But this comes from a more primitive part of our brains.  It’s automatic and instinctual.  It’s survival.  But to move toward the pain is evolutionary.  This takes effort, it’s not automatic or instinctual but it is how we grow.  “Life happens outside our comfort zone.”  In challenging and confronting ourselves we  grow, we learn, we expand our comfort zones.  To consciously and courageously move toward your darkness is how you live life fully.  To be able to feel whatever presents itself in the moment in your body is to be present, to be fully alive.  This is the way to move beyond your fears, by embracing them, by going toward them, by inviting then into your conscious experience.

No pain no gain!  Somehow we get this on the physical side and we are will to go to the gym and push our bodies to discomfort because we understand it will keep us healthy and help us grow but we haven’e quite embraced the same concept for our emotional and spiritual sides.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of it’s furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.

Meet them at the door laughing and invite

them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.

Because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

  • Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks)


Pain is not only a necessary part of life but it keeps you alive, it actually keeps you safe and healthy if you let it do its job.  Pain can also be a catalyst for real spiritual growth and enlightenment.  Ghandi, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Jr, Victor Frankl, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle all suffered physical and/or emotional pain and when they went into the pain, owned it, and stopped projecting it, it transformed them.  Still don’t want to feel pain?  How about learning to experience pain in a way that it’s not overwhelming?  In a way that contributes to your growth?  In a way that makes you whole?  In a way that opens you up to experience more in your life?  In a way that lets you live in the now?  In a way where you can always be present?  I invite you to “go into the darkness to see the light”, it will be the most amazing and rewarding journey you will ever take.

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